This woman writes well, and speaks about understanding the dignity and beauty of the human body apart from the procreative act that so much of our culture is obsessed with.
“Many of us spend our energy looking forward, focused on something that is “not yet.” We feel discontent and impatient. We compare ourselves to others. We’re afraid to share our struggles with chastity. We are caught between a hyper sexualized culture and a marriage-obsessed Church community.”
As a single woman, this resonates true with me. I’m curious what others have to say?
Excerpt from this amazing article:
In other words, when most people hear the word “love,” they no longer think of this:
Instead, they think of this:
And that’s a problem.
Because when we value most what we should value most, that right ordering has a trickle-down effect, illuminating how we see and go about everything else. When we value the wrong thing most, however, the same trickle-down effect occurs, only it brings darkness not illumination.
This is true in business. A businessmen who values profit over serving the common good, respecting his employees, or making a good product, is far more likely to sacrifice integrity, honesty, and quality. Because he values the wrong thing most, he’s more prone to failing at everything else.
The same is true in love.
This will never make the news. But it’s the most news-worthy article I’ve read all week.
“The greatest negative outcomes were found among children of lesbian mothers. This contradicts defective studies popularized by the media claiming children fare as well, or better, with lesbian mothers. Regnerus’ study showed negative outcomes for these adult children in 25 of 40 categories including far higher rates of sexual assault (23% of children with lesbian mothers were touched sexually by a parent or adult, in contrast to 2% raised by married parents), poorer physical health, increased depression, increased marijuana use and higher unemployment (69% of children from lesbian households were on welfare, compared to 17% of those with married parents).”
“The Faiss’ were married April 14, 1933. They met at a roller skating rink in Centralia, IL in 1930. Mr. Faiss said it was” love at first sight.””
Wow. Wow. Wow. This is so complete and amazing. It is definitely worth reading!!
- Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them.
- The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved. The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.
- Recognize that there is incredible wisdom in why God has ordered us to refrain from intimacy before marriage; they are to prevent great harms as well as to keep sacred what is the most blessed part of a relationship between a man and a woman.
- Aside from the obvious spiritual consequences, when a relationship gets physical before its time, important issues like character, life philosophy, and compatibility go to the wayside. Consequently, everything is romanticized and it becomes difficult to even remember the important issues let alone talk about them.
- Intellectual commitment must be established before emotional or sexual commitment.
- If you don’t feel safe now, you won’t feel safe when you are married. if you don’t trust now, this won’t change when you are married!
- When people get into power struggles and blame each other, it’s an indication they don’t work well as a team. Also important is being vulnerable around each other. Ask deep questions of each other and see how your partner responds. How do they handle it? Are they defensive? Do they attack? Do they withdraw? Do they get annoyed? Do they blame you? Do they ignore it? Do they hide or rationalize it? don’t just listen to what they say but watch for how they say it.
- People fail to realize that if they are unhappy as a single person,k they will continue to be miserable when they are married. If you are currently not happy with yourself, don’t like yourself, don’t like the direction your life is going now, it’s important to take responsibility for that now and work on improving those areas of your life before considering marriage. Don’t bring these issues into your marriage and hope your partner will fix them.