Pope to Young Couples: “By burning certain stages, you risk burning love”

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Pope to Young Couples: “By burning certain stages, you risk burning love”.

“The pope said dating should lead to a path of maturity where people can discover just how important the other person is in their life.  He also said that all love, is based “on gratitude, sacrifice, forgiveness and mutual respect.”  The pope also highlighted how taking that route isn’t always  easy. 

“Do not believe that living together before marriage guarantees the future. By burning certain stages, you risk burning love itself. Time needs to be respected gradually, just like the expressions of love.” – Pope Benedict XVI

What wise words from a very wise man.

Viva il Papa!!

Thoughts on “Unwed Women Living With Men Risk More Unplanned Pregnancies” | NPR Blogs

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Unwed Women Living With Men Risk More Unplanned Pregnancies | NPR Blogs

It would seem like common sense, but a new study by the renowned abortion advocate the Guttmacher Institute finds the numbers to back it up.

“Cecile Richards, President of Planned Parenthood, which is no longer affiliated with the Guttmacher Institute, said in a statement that the report shows why the federal government should proceed with a recent plan to make birth control more affordable for those with health insurance.

“The take-home message is clear,” Richards said. “We need to do more to prevent unintended pregnancy, and access to affordable birth control is one significant way to do that.”

Well, this is interesting considering the statistics at the beginning of the article:

“[A new report from the Guttmacher Institute] found that overall, “the United States did not make progress toward its goal of reducing unintended pregnancy between 2001 and 2006.” In fact, the rate was 49 percent in 2006, virtually unchanged from 48 percent in 2001.

But the highest rate of unintended pregnancy of all the subgroups studied occurred among “cohabitors,” or, to use the vernacular, women who were shacking up.”


It sounds like a lack of birth control is not to blame.

It sounds like “doing more to prevent unwanted pregnancies” involves the financially draining task of instructing young women on the full picture of cohabitation, and what havoc it statistically has wreaked on relationships, not only when dealing with the issue of unintended pregnancies but with other issues that affect both parties, as well as the overarching issue of “lack of commitment” that damages society as a whole.

The solution to unplanned pregnancies is not “use more birth control”.  That’s throwing money at a symptom, when the greater illness has not been acknowledged yet.  There’s a bigger picture of the issue of casual sexual relations (defined as any sexual relations outside of a couple committed to the point of marriage) and it’s increasing popularity among the 20-24 age bracket.

There are many things the cohabitive mentality can be attributed to, and it is always to easy to blame the parents, but in this case, it might be worthwhile to examine that attribution.

  • Look at our divorce rate.  A marriage in the United States stands a 50% chance of divorce. What type of example are the children of these broken homes getting? I understand that every situation is unique, but let me explain it this way: A few divorces is a tragedy.  Half of all marriages ending in divorce is a problem.  Something else is going on.
  • Look at the messages projected from the media.  Any romantic comedy these days has the couple in bed together by the first or second date.

What is the answer?  Whatever it is, it won’t come easy, and it will not be well-received.