“What should I tell my kids about sex?” | Simcha Fisher

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“What should I tell my kids about sex?” | Simcha Fisher.

Most important parts:
“There is so much here that one thing is clear: there is no such thing as The Talk, singular.”

“This education has to begin at an early age, in an age-appropriate way. One reader sums it up this way: “5-year-olds need to understand what modesty is, and why our bodies need to be given an appropriate amount of respect. 7-year-olds need to be able to ask questions (and get answers) when they see “weird” magazine covers at the grocery store. 10-year-olds need to have some understanding of their biology. And so on. I don’t think there is an age that is too early to plant the seeds of modesty, purity, and chastity because it involves so much more than [sexual intercourse]. It is ultimately ordered to charity and the basic understanding that all people are created in the image and likeness of God.””

The whole article is worth the read.


Modesty Helps Women Be Friends [ALSO: Discussion on Modesty] | Blogs |

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“It’s a fact of human nature that women are judged by their physical appearances more than men are, and therefore it’s easy for a feeling of competitiveness to arise in this area.  … To describe how it felt to be a woman in that culture, imagine if men walked around displaying their annual incomes on nametags. To allow no-holds-barred competition in an area where men are particularly sensitive to judgment would inevitably poison their relationships with one another. And so it is with women.”


This is an amazing article with amazing points.  It really is a real situation between women… that’s for sure.  My favorite quote:


“Embracing modesty isn’t about following a specific clothing checklist or mistaking fashion choices for holiness. Rather, it’s just a decision that women make, mostly in the back of their minds, not to make their bodies the center of everyone’s attention. It’s a small gesture, but the impact is striking. It brings an air of peace to a gathering of women that you just don’t have if a couple of gals have shown up in tiny tank tops and super-short shorts. It’s as if we simply say to one another, “I won’t show up in hotpants to your barbecue, you won’t wear a cleavage-bearing dress to my wine tasting, and we’ll all have a lovely time.”


Modesty has unfortunately become a point of discrepancy between wearers, with certain women thinking XYZ is acceptable and others arguing that it is not, but there are so many other factors to a modest woman than simply how many inches her hem is from the ground.  A modest woman has to have a modest heart, I’ve found, because wearing modest clothes doesn’t mean anything.  Modesty is a state of mind, just as any other virtue we are to practice and cultivate in our own selves, and it’s value is increased by the externals for sure, but ultimately it is all for naught if there’s no substance behind it.

Modesty practices custody of the eyes, of the mouth, of the hands, of conversations and company, and subsequently, modesty practices custody of situations. While no one is perfect, we all have certain examples in our own lives who are better than others.  Those few examples show us how to be true women, and how to live up to the gloriously difficult and rewarding task of being a woman in this world of secularization and sexualization of our gender.

The Catholic Church teaches that certain saints are known as what we call patron saints, of certain ideals and virtues they exemplified during their temporal lives, and in this case, modesty (and it’s sister purity) have a few.

St. Cecilia

St. Brigid

St. Lucy

St. Joan of Arc

St. Agnes

St. Clare of Assisi

…. and really, countless others.

Modesty of dress is a good place to start, but it is only the beginning