“It’s a fact of human nature that women are judged by their physical appearances more than men are, and therefore it’s easy for a feeling of competitiveness to arise in this area. … To describe how it felt to be a woman in that culture, imagine if men walked around displaying their annual incomes on nametags. To allow no-holds-barred competition in an area where men are particularly sensitive to judgment would inevitably poison their relationships with one another. And so it is with women.”
This is an amazing article with amazing points. It really is a real situation between women… that’s for sure. My favorite quote:
“Embracing modesty isn’t about following a specific clothing checklist or mistaking fashion choices for holiness. Rather, it’s just a decision that women make, mostly in the back of their minds, not to make their bodies the center of everyone’s attention. It’s a small gesture, but the impact is striking. It brings an air of peace to a gathering of women that you just don’t have if a couple of gals have shown up in tiny tank tops and super-short shorts. It’s as if we simply say to one another, “I won’t show up in hotpants to your barbecue, you won’t wear a cleavage-bearing dress to my wine tasting, and we’ll all have a lovely time.”
Modesty has unfortunately become a point of discrepancy between wearers, with certain women thinking XYZ is acceptable and others arguing that it is not, but there are so many other factors to a modest woman than simply how many inches her hem is from the ground. A modest woman has to have a modest heart, I’ve found, because wearing modest clothes doesn’t mean anything. Modesty is a state of mind, just as any other virtue we are to practice and cultivate in our own selves, and it’s value is increased by the externals for sure, but ultimately it is all for naught if there’s no substance behind it.
Modesty practices custody of the eyes, of the mouth, of the hands, of conversations and company, and subsequently, modesty practices custody of situations. While no one is perfect, we all have certain examples in our own lives who are better than others. Those few examples show us how to be true women, and how to live up to the gloriously difficult and rewarding task of being a woman in this world of secularization and sexualization of our gender.
The Catholic Church teaches that certain saints are known as what we call patron saints, of certain ideals and virtues they exemplified during their temporal lives, and in this case, modesty (and it’s sister purity) have a few.
…. and really, countless others.
Modesty of dress is a good place to start, but it is only the beginning