“Things would have been different if we were 15 years younger or if we hadn’t had children already or if we were more financially secure,” she said later. “If I had conceived these twins naturally, I wouldn’t have reduced this pregnancy, because you feel like if there’s a natural order, then you don’t want to disturb it. But we created this child in such an artificial manner — in a test tube, choosing an egg donor, having the embryo placed in me — and somehow, making a decision about how many to carry seemed to be just another choice. The pregnancy was all so consumerish to begin with, and this became yet another thing we could control.”
…… I am at a loss for words.
Practices like this are of archaic mentalities. We see practices like this in societies that still have repressed social freedoms, as in sex-selective births, infanticides, abortive practices….
How can one arbitrily decide that one of their children’s lives is more worthy than the other? That one of their children has to die so the others can be provided for? What kind of choice is that? What is the reasoning process behind this detestable practice?
What do children need more than love? Are we incapable of giving love to more than one child at a time? What does it cost to love? Are we incapable of opening our hearts to the grace available to us, in the form of two children instead of one?
The idea of consciously terminating one of the two children existing in utero …… is desolate.
Somehow, in a way I am incapable of expressing, this strikes me as so much more grave than anything else I can even think of.
† Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual life shine upon them. May the souls of the faitfhful departed through the mercies of God, rest in peace, Amen. †