Who’s on the Family Tree? Now It’s Complicated – NYTimes.com

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Who’s on the Family Tree? Now It’s Complicated – NYTimes.com.

“For medical purposes I am her mother,” Ms. Williams said. “But I am also her aunt.”

I can’t imagine lying to a child about their origins, particularly if they came from a sperm or egg donor.  With the uprising of genetic disorder discoveries, how is withholding that type of information ever justified?  How can you be so sure that that 20, 40, 60 years down the road, knowing whether their birthmother was vaccinated as a baby is going to save their life or not? How do you answer family medical history forms that ask for the conditions of your birth-grandparents, and in certain cases, your birth-great-grandparents? I’m not singling out children of donors, either; I truly hope that this same type of information is made available for adopted children as well.  It just makes sense.

A family tree is a family tree.  You come from who you come from, but you live with who you live with.  Take joy in the fact that you were chosen to be adopted, or carried to term, or anything of that sort; but I have serious reservations about withholding genealogical information, particularly as a child moves from adolescence to adulthood and is more responsible for their own medical needs.

(A side note- I disagree with not doing family trees in classrooms.)

Curious what special cases readers have encountered.



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